What's so wrong with boys and girls being friends?
I enjoy having friends of the opposite sex. In fact, as I've probably already stated, I think everyone should have both male and female friends. The perspective is totally worth it.
Why must the assumption always be that the boy and girl are 'more than friends'?
Now, I will admit that when I've imbibed a bit too much, I'm prone to being overly affectionate. This goes for boys and girls alike, married or single. I am one of those girls that kisses EVERYONE at midnight on New Years Eve. But the last two times someone has asked if I was in a relationship with one of my guy friends, I've been completely sober. Both situations have been larger functions where I'm along to keep company, and in neither case was I even being touchy. (I am relatively affectionate with out the influences as well, but more along the arm linky vein, as opposed to the huggy/kissy vein).
The first time I was sitting NEXT to my friend and we were having a conversation. We were merely sitting side by side on a bench. Not even overly close together I don't think.
This time I was at a party and we both stopped to talk to someone. We were wandering around, in fact we didn't have our arms linked nor were we walking side by side, I was following behind him as he cut a path towards where we were going.
Now, I actually find this stuff funny for the most part. Except that it could be problematic in the future. And I seriously wonder what it is that I'm doing to make people think I'm with someone. (When it's not obvious behavior... like public displays of affection.) I've been married for the last six years, and I really have no desire to worry that every time I'm out with a guy that's not my husband (as he lives quite a ways away at the moment) people will think I'm having an affair!
What am I missing here? Do I need a pair of tee shirts that say "Not A Couple" to be worn by myself and whatever male friend I'm out with at any given time?
I'd really like to ask what made these people jump to the 'couple' conclusion, but in both situations the assumers were very embarrassed, and I don't think I can put them back in that spot and ask. If it's merely attending a function, I'm going to be very annoyed. (That's not a fixable one in my book).
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